Is My Child Just Going Through a Phase or Is It Something More?

Teenagers can be moody, emotional, and unpredictable. It’s practically their job. But as a parent, how do you know when to worry—and when to ride it out?

Here’s the tricky truth: some behaviours are totally normal for their age. Others might be signs that your child is struggling with their emotional wellbeing.

Let’s unpack the difference.

1. What’s normal teen behaviour?

• Wanting more independence

• Spending more time with friends or alone

• Experimenting with identity, music, fashion

• Mood swings, occasional arguments

These can be signs your child is growing, not struggling.

2. When it might be more than a phase

• They’ve lost interest in things they used to enjoy

• Their sleep or eating habits have changed significantly

• They avoid school or social situations altogether

• You notice signs of self-harm or hear them talk about feeling hopeless

• The changes have lasted more than a couple of weeks

It’s all about frequency, duration, and impact. If their behaviour is ongoing and affecting their daily life, it’s time to seek support.

3. Don’t wait for a crisis Getting help early can make a huge difference. Counselling can help your child develop tools to manage stress, talk through big feelings, and feel more in control.

4. It’s okay to ask for help—even if you’re not sure You don’t need a diagnosis to talk to a professional. Many therapists offer a consultation to explore whether counselling is the right fit.

You’re not overreacting. You’re being proactive.